In life, there is a delicate balance between the love we receive from our mothers and the love we share with our wives
In life, there is a delicate balance between the love we receive from our mothers and the love we share with our wives. Both are pivotal figures, offering us unwavering support, care, and dedication. Our mother brings us into the world, nurturing us from our earliest moments. She shapes us, molding us with her wisdom, guiding us through life’s challenges, and instilling in us the values we carry forward. In her, we find the foundation of our existence.
Similarly, a wife enters our life with equal depth of care, creating a world around us. Her love is different, not because it is lesser, but because it is equally profound in its purpose. While a mother prepares us for life, a wife walks alongside us through it. She not only shares in our dreams and ambitions but also bears the weight of sacrifices that often go unnoticed. Her efforts make a house a home, her patience becomes our anchor, and her silent support sustains our endeavors.
Yet, there is a disparity in how these two roles are perceived. While we naturally offer love and affection to our mothers, a wife’s devotion often goes unrecognized, taken for granted. We tend to overlook her contributions in the day-to-day course of life, assuming that her role is secondary. However, it is in these very moments that she holds the fort together, ensuring stability and continuity, even when her efforts remain in the background.
It is easy to overlook the sacrifices a wife makes. She, too, makes her world around her partner, often relinquishing her own identity for the greater cause of partnership and family. But she shouldn’t have to wait until the later stages of life for acknowledgment, or for her contributions to be fully realized. She should be made to feel cherished, valued, and respected from the very beginning. Not just as someone who supports but as someone who deserves a rightful place beside her partner in every aspect of life—whether in decisions, planning, or the recognition of her strength and wisdom.
A woman who feels this respect and appreciation in her early years doesn’t just live in the shadow of her partner’s success—she becomes an integral part of it. It is important for men to understand that true leadership is shared. As much as mothers deserve our affection, a wife deserves our attention, our trust, and our companionship as an equal. It’s not enough to acknowledge her love when time is slipping away. The appreciation must begin early, so she feels like the queen by her husband's side, not waiting in silence for recognition. Respecting her is not a burden; it is a necessary honor, one that should be given freely and without hesitation throughout life.
Venkataramanan Ramasethu
